Negotiation Tip 5 – Train Your Mind to See Alternatives

This may be a HARD one for entrepreneurs and people of faith – to see alternatives – but it is necessary in the negotiation process.

We are now working our way to learning one of the fundamental concepts of negotiation, which is BATNA.

BATNA stands for “Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement,” and no good negotiator begins the negotiation process without knowing his BATNA, which requires exploring alternatives.

The critical question is, “If I am not able to negotiate the agreement I planned, what is my alternative?”

To many people, identifying alternatives means having a lack of faith in the one thing you want, but what it really means is, “What are the possible alternative routes to the thing I want?”

I have a friend who loves to explore. Anytime there is an opportunity to get on a lake and kayak, Jet Ski, etc. to the other side of the lake to explore, she will. Sometimes we have gone places where she has requested a Jet Ski so she could go to the other side of the lake, only to find there were no Jet Skis available. Since her objective is not the Jet Ski but to get to the other side of the lake, her next question is about the other available modes of transportation to get to the other side of the lake. She explores alternatives.

Her preference was the Jet Ski, but her objective was getting to the other side of the lake.

This may seem simple, but if we don’t consider alternatives, it will be difficult to negotiate effectively. We will not be able to develop our BATNA (which we will begin developing the rubric for within the next few tips).

Sometimes we are told as entrepreneurs and people of faith that to think of anything other than what we are asking for shows weakness. But it isn’t. Likewise, not being able to identify alternatives has caused many failures in negotiation.

“Not being able to identify alternatives has caused many failures in negotiation.”
– Barbara M. Littles (Click to tweet)

The good news is you can train yourself to see alternatives.

The place to start is to ask the critical question: “If I am not able to negotiate the agreement I planned, what is my alternative?”

It’s amazing how our mind searches for answers to problems when we ask questions. Questions serve as the open door to our mind’s exploration. Open the doors of your mind and begin to consider alternatives that will get you to the thing you “really, really want.”

Negotiation or the Exit Door

Failure to explore options can cause us to make a premature decision about our career, business, or life because when we haven’t developed alternatives, we automatically look for an exit door.

Sometimes it is not time to exit; it is time to negotiate.

For more Negotiation Tips – click here.

CALL TO ACTION:

This week, begin to explore alternatives.

When you go to your favorite restaurant with a specific dish in mind because it fits your dietary needs and you find it is no longer available, think of another dish or begin to construct another dish that has the same or similar caloric content instead of pouting or leaving the restaurant. You are now using your energy to ask questions to explore alternatives.

What do you “really, really want?” Do you remember that question? (Tip #4). If what you really want is to cut calories, that means there are other dishes that fit within the caloric count other than the one you initially had in mind.

Alternatives are everywhere. Be intentional about exploring at least two this week.
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6 Comments

  • August 17, 2017
    August 17, 2017

    I like the idea of training myself to see alternatives. I think if this is my focus, then I won’t be so attached to the plan I want but open to something that might even be better. Thanks, Barbara!

  • Sheri Hodgers
    August 17, 2017
    Sheri Hodgers
    August 17, 2017

    I read tip #5 on yesterday and thought ok good.
    Had no ideal that it was going to slap me in the face on this morning.
    I was working on a project this morning. Something I been doing for the past four years and holding at a certain place. Even though I booked the place last year. This morning I found out can’t do it.
    My first thought was oh ok I will cancel it. Its a lot of work anyway. Blah Blah Blah!!!

    That’s when it happened BATNA hit me right in the face.
    Because I felt it wasn’t going my way I was going to easily give up and not seek an alternative.
    Thank you Barb for tip #5
    It will not only make a difference in my life but for others that would have been affected if I had cancelled.

    • Barbara
      August 17, 2017
      Barbara
      August 17, 2017

      We are training our minds to see alternatives. As we move toward developing this mindset as we begin training the negotiation process you will be sharp and ready! Thanks Sheri for the doing the call to action by practicing seeing alternatives.

  • Vanessa
    August 19, 2017
    Vanessa
    August 19, 2017

    Yes, BATNA to the rescue! Another reminder that “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”! I always try to view situations, decisions and choices optimistically and have been a proponent of having a Plan A, B and C if necessary. Thank you for sharing another amazing tip Barbara Littles!

  • Jessica
    August 19, 2017
    Jessica
    August 19, 2017

    So HELPFUL- As an “all or nothing” person, I can find it difficult to come up with alternatives, but I see how it’s necessary when negotiating.

  • August 20, 2017
    August 20, 2017

    This was really good! I especially like the Jet ski illustration. Sometimes we are absolutely stuck on one way of achieving a goal. Alternatives are good because it means there is another way. Oftentimes we become trap when our expected solution is not available but never consider the back up plan. Lots to think about. Thank you.

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